Don’t Feel Awkward Reaching Out to Strangers
Making new friends can be challenging, but if you’re a new mom, having a network of other parents to share experiences with can be extremely beneficial. Start showing up with your child to places where mothers are likely to be. This can include the park, library story hours, music classes, and more. Ask other parents how they are managing, and suggest having coffee or organizing playdates sometimes.
Pre-Kids Friends Might Drift Away for a While
As a new mom, you might feel like your old group of friends is drifting away. You don’t have to go out of your way to remain an active part of the social group. Choose an old friend to message and ask how they’re doing. If you keep old relationships open and easy, they will likely come together again once the pressure of the first stages of parenthood subsides. In the meantime, look for friendships with people going through the same things and who are able to share experiences.
Mom Friends With Different Parenting Styles
When making mom friends, you’ll meet people with parenting styles and ideologies that differ from yours. A good rule to follow is not to offer unsolicited advice so long as their practices aren’t a danger to your child. Time will tell whether parental friendships were meant to last or fizzle out. It’s important to start learning to deal with different parenting styles early on. The trend will continue with potentially greater consequences as the kids get older and being able to teach tolerance by example is important.
Bridging New and Old Friends
Making friends with other moms is a way to meet people from many different walks of life. If you have friends from your college days, work, and your life as a parent, and you want to throw a party with all your diverse friend groups, don’t hesitate to do so. Learn to feel comfortable being yourself no matter who’s there and enjoy spending time with all your different types of friends for different reasons. While some of your friends might not get along, you’ll also see unlikely friendships being made as well!
Is It Too Late to Join a Formed Mom Group?
If you’re a new mom taking your baby out for a stroll around the park, it’s likely that you’ll see already formed groups of moms walking together. Trying to break into a formed clique might seem intimidating. However, one shouldn’t be discouraged about trying to enter a formed friend group of moms. Talk about the motherhood experience with them, ask them about their interests, offer to trade babysitting hours or carpool, and friendships will form naturally over time.