Friends Creating Families — How Platоnic Parenting Models Work

In our modern day and age, love and marriage are no longer a prerequisite for bringing children into the world and raising them to the best of one’s abilities. A new trend is emerging of platonic parenting models in which friends or groups of two or more consenting adults that aren’t romantically involved agree to raise a child or children together. Although the concept might seem unique and far from the traditional family structure, it’s becoming more common in today’s society.

Friends Creating Families - How Platоnic Parenting Models Work
What Is Platonic Parenting

Platonic parenting starts off as an agreement between consenting adults to bring a child into the world or adopt and raise the child or children in a platonic co-parenting model. This means that marriage, love, and romantic involvement aren’t necessary precursors. While some choose to co-parent with long-time friends, some co-parents meet online through sites such as Family By Design, Coparents, Pollen Tree, and many others.

What Could Be the Perks of This Parenting Model

Many parents that are currently raising children in this platonic co-parenting model say that finding a romantic partner that shares all the same parenting ideologies, mindsets, and the required chemistry for a lasting romantic relationship is a tall order. That’s why many parents chose to create a platonic co-parenting system with like-minded individuals that share the same ideals and parenting styles, and a willingness to share all parental tasks.

Legality and Paperwork

Creating a non-traditional family unit through platonic parenting is a bit more complicated when it comes to paperwork. Both parents can get listed on the child’s birth certificate if they’re both biologically connected to the child. In some US states, a parent will not be added to the birth certificate if these criteria aren’t met. Another option is seeking legal parentage through second-parent adoption. The process for this approach varies from state to state. Signing a pre-conception parenting agreement that outlines the guidelines of how the co-parenting process should work can also be helpful.