Do you remember your first relationship? Nobody forgets the butterflies, fantasies, and how they would think about the person 24/7. You knew you would spend the rest of your life with them. Whether that happened or it didn’t the relationship marked a significant milestone in your life, so will your teen’s first relationship.
You knew it would happen; every parent does, but you can never be adequately prepared for it. So, when your 13-year old daughter comes home and tells you she is in love with the hottest guy in her school; that must be scary, right? It is a sign that they are growing and getting into adulthood. Soon they will be out there by themselves, and they need your wisdom to get through life’s challenges.
Is It a Parents’ Responsibility To Discuss Dating With Their Teenagers?
As a parent, you should commit to guiding your little one through the complicated life stages. Preteen and teen years are no easy feat for your child. Hormones are flying around, and you are likely to deal with a fair share of conflict. Dating is one hot topic that you must handle. So, what should you say?
Build On The Basics
A lot of the things that make dating “healthy” are what make appropriate social interactions. It’s the same stuff you have been teaching your little one since he or she was a toddler. Be polite, don’t hurt people, take turns, and avoid hurting other people’s feelings are some of the things you should teach them.
Dating is like having a friend you care for. Encourage your teenager to be respectful, caring, and pleasant. Don’t forget to talk about hygiene. If your son or daughter wants to maintain a relationship, they should bathe, brush teeth, and practice other conventional hygiene exercises.
What’s The Right Age To Date?
There is never the right age to start dating, as this varies with every child. The scary part is you never know when yours will fall in love. Therefore, make sure they hear the message from you and not from social media platforms or the TV. Introduce the topic early and make it deep as they get older.
When Things Get Physical
The difference between a regular friendship and dating is that the later includes some form of physical contact or at least has the potential for it. There is so much to say to your teen about sex but few ways of expressing it. Don’t encourage your child to have intercourse.
Tell them that dating should be more of building a long-term friendship and less of making out. Review the basics of safety and protection. Ask them to wait until they are in the legal age of consent before they have sexual intercourse. It’s not an easy discussion, but it should be done.
The first relationship might just end up in the first heartbreak that is never easy to handle. As painful as this is likely to be, be there to help your teenager to get through this painful period. Practice patience and remember the value of active listening.
Raising a teen isn’t easy, but it’s worth the effort. Hope this helps you have a successful relationship talk with your not-so-little one.